The older we get the more we start to realize that we tend to carry burdens of our past into our present. Childhood issues varying from no fathers in the home to being forced into being a grown up in a child’s body. You’d be surprised that, if asked any random person will tell you they were made to care or fend for themselves as a child amongst a host of other issues that a normal childhood shouldn’t have to go through.
The Black family dynamic as a whole is something that needs to be addressed (we’ll touch on that in a future blog) there are a lot of issues to deal with within the black community that plagues us to this day.
However, for the sake of today’s blog we are honing in on broken MEN in general… Damaged, emotionally unavailable men go to great lengths to avoid emotional connections in relationships and dating, simply because they expect to be hurt. Through this expectation, they cause enough pain to keep themselves busy for a lifetime which in turn, falls heavily on you if you are trying to establish something concrete and long term with them.
You may ask, what can you do to help this man because you love him or have a slight interest in him. How can you turn their shit into sugar and have a healthy thriving relationship with him. Well, the answer is you do nothing. You do absolutely nothing! You don’t call, text or pull up on him. You do absolutely nothing!
Instead, let him go do his thing while you make yourself as genuinely happy as possible. Here are a few helpful tips to keep you on track and keeping your own sanity while dealing with Mr. Broken:
Understand what a broken man looks like
Remember that it’s not about you
Take care of yourself first
Don’t try to “Fix” him
Have realistic expectations
Have the difficult conversations with yourself and be honest
Do not stop living your life
Set boundaries
In some cases you attract what you are. The reality is that so many women are dating the wrong guy. Understand that broken men are everywhere, but you have a choice in who you entertain and engage. You can be an amazing and healed woman, but that won’t stop broken men from coming your way. In closing, I hope this blog provides you with the clarity you need and gives you a clear understanding of how to attract healthier relationships moving forward.
xoxo
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